Why I Travel So Much (And How You Can Too)

July 13, 2018

If you’ve followed me for a while, you may have noticed that I travel a lot.

Just in the month of June, I was in Ireland and also Mexico. I get so many questions about why and how I travel, that I decided to devote a blog post to it.

Growing up, my dad was in the military, and we moved A LOT. I grew up moving from city to city, and country to country,
every 1-2 years. Before age 18 I had lived throughout Texas, Maryland, Germany, Paraguay, and Spain.

I got really good at packing, really good at being the new kid at school, really good at living in the secret world inside my head, and really good at finding my way around a new place where I didn’t understand what anyone was saying or how the toilet flushers worked.

I flew by myself for the first time at age 5, and countless times before and after that. I subconsciously learned to tie the excitement of moving to a new country to the sound of a jet engine starting before a plane takes off. It still makes me giddy every. single. time.

If I got sad about leaving my friends, my mom would hype up the next move by saying,

“We’re going to a new place and you can totally decide who you want to be there. Who do you want to meet? What do you want to learn? You can create whatever kind of life for yourself that you want!”

And I loved it. I really loved it. Sure, it was hard leaving new friends sometimes, but I learned to expect and crave the next adventure.

My desire for highs, excitement, downtime, processing time, and adventures was completely fulfilled by travel. And, as you might expect, I carried that with me into adulthood.

This means that the idea of hopping on a last-minute plane for a solo trip to Iceland by myself with no plan and no one there I know doesn’t feel scary to me. It feels exhilarating. And I did just that in 2010. Also Ghana. Also India.

It’s my way of filling myself up and physically and mentally removing myself from the distractions of daily life. I get so much done on these trips. I work. I find creative inspiration. And I process feelings that would otherwise get buried under the day-to-day grind.

For example, I spent a lot of my time in Ireland last month grieving the loss of my dad. He passed away a few years ago, but grief doesn’t really care how many years it’s been. I like to give it space to breathe on my travels so that it doesn’t pop up as much at inconvenient times in everyday life.

One day while I was in Ireland, an old man who owned a pub and I started conversing about life, death, ancestors, and family. I could tell he knew my soul. He told me to go to a very specific place, a fort, because there were “some souls there” that “might want to talk” to me. So I went to this fort, climbed to the top, laid out a blanket, and listened to see if ghosts whispered to me.

They did. And it’s one of the most healing experiences I’ve ever had in my life.

 

People often ask me, “How do you afford to travel so much?”

I have several answers for this.

First, I was born in the US, a developed country where people are afforded certain privileges. My family was not wealthy, but we always had everything we truly needed. In comparison to people who don’t have clean drinking water, a middle class American family is ridiculously rich. So, I always like to first acknowledge a level of privilege that comes with the family and body and country and skin I was born into. So, there’s that.

Beyond that, I have worked REALLY hard to create a life for myself that allows me to travel. They say that if you want to know about a person’s priorities, look at their calendar and their bank account. I make time for travel, and I save money for travel.

Even when I was making $30k per year straight out of college, I found ways to save money for epic travel adventures.

I went without cable. I lived in a cheap apartment with no central air or heat and once caught my bathrobe on fire trying to get warm in the mornings by an old, rickety, open-flame gas heater. I shopped at thrift stores. I’d go out on the town with friends and only drink water.

I’ve still never owned a brand-new car. And have no desire to. BECAUSE THAT MONEY COULD BE USED FOR TRAVEL.

We make sacrifices for the things that we love most.

I’m also fine traveling on a budget. I don’t mind staying in spare bedrooms in strangers’ homes via airbnb. I don’t mind going to the grocery store to buy my food instead of eating out. And I don’t need expensive guided tours, ATV rides, or ziplines to have a great time.

The type of excursion I like most is a slow, deep conversation with the oldest person I can find in a tiny town, in a remote part of a foreign country. That doesn’t cost much. They’ll usually spend a whole afternoon with me for the cost of a cup of tea.

In The Devour Life Academy, I have all of my students plan a “Pleasure Retreat” for themselves. It’s a little solo getaway that feeds their souls. At first, I usually hear, “There’s no way I can do that. It’s impossible because… I don’t have the money/ I have kids to take care of/ I can’t get time off of work/ etc.”

And every single time, with every single client, we find a way for them to have the perfect retreat.

I’ve had clients do everything from spending a solo weekend getting lost in Chicago, to flying to New Zealand for a dreamy hike, to borrowing a friend’s rustic little cabin in the woods for a weekend of silence and reading. We decide where they’re going to go and what they’re going to do based on what their soul is whispering.

Whatever that thing is that makes you feel all tingly inside, that thing should be your non-negotiable.

For me, it’s travel. For you, it could be something entirely different. But it’s part of your life’s purpose to identify and experience whatever that thing is for you. Fight for it.

What I hope you’ll take away from this is not, “Oh yay. Good for Breanne that she travels all the time”, but rather the truth that whatever thing is most important to you, you can ABSOLUTELY do.

Identify it. Then make your calendar and bank account reflect it.

This is your one precious life and there’s nothing more important than doing the thing that gives your soul all the tingles.

 

So, what is that for you? I’d love for you to comment below and tell me…

 

  1. What soul-tingling experience or feeling are you craving?

  2. What is one TINY step you could take to make you feel like it can really happen?

 

 

Hugs and high-fives to fighting for your joy,

 

 

P.S. This round of The Devour Life Academy is full and closed, but we have a waitlist right here. Sign up if the idea of working with me is one of the things tugging at you, and my team will let you know as soon as the next round launches. 🙂

How To Deal With Food Cravings + Make My Favorite Summer Snack!

June 27, 2018

 

Here in the northern hemisphere we are in full on summa Summa SUMMATIME! It’s hot, the cicadas are singing, and everyone is looking for a body of water to jump into.

When the seasons shift, our food cravings tend to shift as well. Listening to your food cravings is incredibly important because they’re always a message from your body about something you need.

Right now, I’m mostly craving cool, crisp salads, a ton of fruit, fish, and refreshing bubbly drinks like La Croix and prosecco.

Yesterday afternoon I got an intense craving for oats (weird, right?) so I whipped up a batch of my favorite summer overnight oats. They’re so delicious for breakfast or for a snack and they have that cool and creamy texture that is perfect for summer.

Because I’m a nutrition nerd, I know that my craving for oats was probably due to a deficiency in manganese, phosphorus, molybdenum, magnesium, copper, tyrosine, avenin, or one of the other many nutrients that are plentiful in oats.

Once I ate them, I immediately felt so satiated, full and happy.

Every craving you have is related so some sort of deficiency or need.

Sometimes it’s physical, like being deficient in a specific nutrient, and sometimes it’s psychological. But it’s always about a need. So cravings are really important messages from your body, and listening to them is crucial if you want to have a beautiful relationship with food.  

Now I know you might be thinking, “All I’m craving is junk food and pizza. What does that mean?”

If you crave that every now and then, that’s a normal part of moderate, healthful eating.

But if you’re craving it every day, or craving more food than you need to feel full every day, then that’s emotional eating. And, to heal it, you’ve got to get to the root cause. There are underlying emotional and psychological issues that need to be addressed.

The goal is NOT to just use more willpower to force yourself to eat better. It doesn’t work, and leaves you feeling like a weak failure.

Instead, the goal is to no longer desire to overeat and emotionally eat. That way, it’s incredibly easy and fun to follow through on eating beautifully.

 

Instead of forcing yourself not to eat junk food… you just don’t want it.

Instead of forcing yourself to stop overeating… you just don’t want to.

 

Your body is so wise. It knows what to eat, when to eat, how to eat, and EXACTLY what you need to feel your absolute best.

Once you learn to tap into your own intuition when it comes to food choices, it’s just so… easy. It feels like a giant exhale.

This is what I teach in The Devour Life Academy, and registration closes on Friday. I’ve only got two spots left, so if you’re feeling a pull, now is the time to join.

Within 90 days, the women in the academy’s desire to overeat and emotionally eat will shrink down to almost nil.

  • They will easily and intuitively make nourishing food choices.
  • They will look at a chocolate cake or block of cheese and legitimately only desire a few bites.
  • They will never have to count calories or macros or points or portion sizes again.
  • They will see what their own, unique, ideal body feels like when food is no longer in control.
  • They will learn to intuitively eat using their body’s own cravings and inner wisdom.

If you want this summer to finally be the summer that you end the food struggle, I’ve got you. Comment below and tell me…

 

         1. What your struggle with food has been like and

         2. If food were no longer a struggle, how would that change your life?

 

Hugs and high fives to breaking you out of food jail,

 

P.S. The oats totally hit the spot for me and I hope you make them tonight! To do so, mix the following ingredients in a mason jar in this order:

 

½ c uncooked rolled oats

2T dried chia seeds (shake or stir a bit to mix the oats and chia seeds)

1 c almond milk

1-2 T peanut butter (to taste, the natural kind that’s runny at room temp is easiest)

1T greek yogurt

1T  honey (more or less to taste)

1 whole banana, chopped

 

Stir a bit, add a lid, and shake it up. Add extra almond milk if the jar isn’t full and shake again. Put in the fridge overnight for a delicious breakfast or snack the next day. Enjoy!

Ireland + The Devour Life Challenge!

May 12, 2018

I’m planning a trip to Ireland next month, and I’ve been in full on dreaming and planning mode this weekend. I’m so excited to roll down the windows in my little rental car as I listen to Irish jams (I always make country-specific travel playlists) and cruise down the left side of the motorway, surrounded by lush green hills.  

I’m excited to see all the main attractions. The Titanic Museum in Belfast. The Giant’s Causeway. The Cliffs of Moher. The Ring of Kerry. Trinity College Library. I’ve got 2 weeks so I’m driving around the entire Island and literally seeing every main attraction there is to see. But if you know of some little local-only, tourist-free gems off the beaten path, please let me know!

I’m also excited to eat soda bread, Irish Stew, colcannon, boxty, champ and coddle because I’ve never had any of them! I love visiting places and eating local foods. It’s the epitome of devouring the experience. And you all know how I love to devour life. <wink>

I was thinking about all that glorious Irish food today as I read about a prominent Weight Watchers spokeswoman deciding to no longer follow or work with Weight Watchers.

She talked about how restricted she felt after initially losing weight. And that, to her, restriction not only meant counting points, but also demonizing certain foods and feeling like so many foods are off-limits. Eventually, at the height of her weight-watchers-weight-loss online popularity, she became so concerned with restricting her food that she stopped going out with friends, started violently bingeing, and just went through a very, very dark time.

Now that she’s started just eating normal healthy foods according to when her body is hungry, she’s so much happier. What a bummer it would be if I had to count points or calories or macros when I went to Ireland. What a bummer it would be if I had to do it in my day-to-day life. Ick. I used to live that way, and it felt like being in food jail. 

 

I hear this from clients over and over again.

 

“I used to do Weight Watchers (or insert any other diet plan here) and lost a lot of weight but then gained it all back plus more.”

 

“I really need to get back on ______ diet plan, but I always fall off the wagon.”

 

“Why can’t I stick to anything I try??? I just hate dieting so much.”

 

Dieting just does. not. work. It’s not sustainable. It sets you up for failure. Study after study after study shows that diets have the worst possible failure rate. Even (especially?) when they’re masquerading as a “lifestyle change”, they just plain do not work for people long-term.

So, what DOES work?

What DOES work is learning to tap into your own body’s intuitive wisdom when deciding what to eat, when to eat, and how much to eat. What DOES work is getting to the root of why you’re emotionally eating and overeating, instead of just blaming yourself for having no self-control.

That path goes so much deeper than just trying to restrict your food intake. It gets to the core of who YOU are and what YOU need to be happy. It teaches you how to have a relationship with food that feels healthy, nourishing, joyful and FREE. It teaches you WHY you’re craving the extra food, and what’s missing in your life that’s causing the cravings.

This path is about learning to devour your whole life to feel the way you want to feel, instead of just devouring food.

So, how do you do it? I’m so glad you asked. Because I’ve created a 7-day Devour Life challenge to show you the first few steps.

      Photo by Danielle Fletcher

It’s free, and I’d love to have you join us. It’s not hard, but it does require you to go a little deeper than you may have in the past when it comes to your eating. And it’s also going to be so freaking FUN!

I won’t be telling you to eat kale and do sit-ups. I’ll be guiding you to look at the deeper reasons underneath the food craziness. And I’ll be guiding you to focus on your own unique STRENGTHS and to have more FUN. I AM SO FREAKING EXCITED!!!

It costs nothing! There are fun little prizes at the end that I will mail to the winners! I lovvvve mailing presents to people! And if you want to go WAY above and beyond, the grand prize at the end is a full scholarship into the next round of my Devour Life Academy, which is valued at $4500.

I know, right?

I’ll be doing the challenge right along with you and we are going to have SUCH a fun week together. I’m seriously giddy.

Click HERE to sign up and I’ll send you all the details! 

Hugs and a giddy little Irish jig,

P.S. Forward this email to friends so they can JOIN in, too! The more, the merrier! 

 

An Ode To Wedding Cake

April 27, 2018

Last weekend I attended a gorgeous wedding, and I LOVE weddings. The love. The joy. The dancing. THE CAKE.

When I hear that it’s time for the happy couple to cut the cake, I’m first in line y’all. Sometimes, if I’m feeling especially impatient and it’s taking too long, I’ll even gently remind the wedding planner that the cake needs to be cut. I’m that person.

So, on Saturday night, I reached for the piece with the most icing, sat down at my seat at the gorgeously-decorated table, clapped like a child, and took a few deep breaths to fully enjoy the cake smell. I silently thanked everyone involved in bringing me this delicious cake.

Thank you to the bride and groom for including me. Thank you to the bakers who spent hours sourcing the best ingredients and making it perfect. Thank you to the women who cut pieces and handed them out.

And then I tasted my first bite and it was GLORIOUS. I put my fork down and savored every orgasmic morsel of that first bite.

Then I took another and savored it just as slowly. And then another. And then one more.

And then, I was done.

I checked in with my body, and didn’t want anymore.

I legitimately didn’t want any more of my favorite dessert in the world.

So I left the rest on my plate and went out on to the dance floor to shake what my mama gave me.

That, my friends, is what it looks like to Devour Life. You learn how to eat whatever you want, whenever you want it, in a way that feels EASY. And like food freedom.

It’s so much easier to just not WANT to overeat than it is to try and use willpower to force yourself to stop.

I know that, for you, it might be cheese that lights up your whole world. Or wine. Or french fries. Or one of everything from your favorite drive-through menu. But for me, it’s always been cake. Specifically, wedding cake.

Back when I felt totally nuts around food, it was the humiliating decision to dig an entire wedding cake out of the trash so that I could binge on the whole thing, alone, on my couch, yet again… that finally led me to get help with my food craziness.

So these leaving-wedding-cake-on-the-plate moments used to feel like a pipe dream.

So, in these moments, when I realize I get to eat anything I want, whenever I want it, and feel free and amazing and satisfied, it feels like I’ve overcome one of the most difficult hurdles of my life.

Upper level organic chemistry was hard. Traveling across Western Africa alone was hard.

But nothing in my life was as hard as struggling with food to the extent that I did. And nothing was as gratifying as FINALLY FEELING FREE.

Nicky finally learned to Devour Life, too. Here’s her story…

So, tell me… Is it wedding cake for you, too? What’s the “naughty” food that lights up your heart with glee? Comment below so we can compare food craziness notes.

Hugs and buttercream frosting,

P.S. I’m launching my next round of The Devour Life Academy NOW! Want to finally end the food madness and have a life and body that you adore? Click here to see what all the hype is about!

You’re Not Supposed to Do it Alone

April 06, 2018
I do a lot of things alone.

I’ve lived alone for 10 years. I’ve traveled to places like India and Iceland and West Africa, alone. I take month-long cross country road trips from Austin to Vancouver, alone. I typically run errands alone. I can easily change a tire alone. I do my daily ritual and movement practice alone. I love taking myself out on dinner or movie dates, alone.

The aloneness feels good to me. It feels like home.

I, of course, have beloved friends who I love hanging out with, and beautiful relationships with incredible depth that keep me feeling supported and surrounded by love. I’m rarely lonely. But I also pride myself on being able to happily do most things in life on my own.

But there are a few things in my life that I tried and Tried and TRIED to do on my own and just completely face-planted.

Some things are pretty impossible to do alone.

For me, the biggest of those things was learning how to stop feeling like a crazy person around food. Even when other areas of my life were totally together and stellar, I continued overeating, emotionally eating, and binge eating without really understanding why. I just knew I craved the food and NEEDED the food. It felt mindless, and like something took over my body and just MADE me do it.

Figuring out how to fix this for myself felt impossible. I sort of just thought that feeling like a crazy person around food was my lot in life.

I eventually found a book called Intuitive Eating and I REALLY loved the idea of just eating… intuitively. Like a “normal” eater would.

 

I wanted to be a woman who felt free around food. Like the food thing was just easy for me.

 

I wanted out of the food jail of counting points and calories and macros and tracking things.

 

I wanted to feel like food choices came as easily to me as everything else in my life did.

 

I wanted to be able to look at a huge piece of cake or a giant bowl of cheese and not feel like I had to eat the whole thing to feel happy.

 

I wanted to be the woman who looked at it, had a few bites, enjoyed it, and then (for real) had zero desire to eat more.

 

And now, I have that. Food is easy (and sooo joyful) for me. I love my body and feel confident, sexy and like it’s the body I belong in. My own version of my ideal body.

But getting here would have been impossible alone. The knowledge of what I was “supposed” to do wasn’t enough to make me actually DO it.  I tried and tried and failed and just kept feeling like a complete failure.

I needed someone to hold my hand, cheer me on, and pull me back to the truth when I didn’t believe that I could conquer this thing. So I sought out the best teachers and coaches I could find. Once I had the support I needed, it was a cakewalk (haha). I just needed someone to help me through it and show me how to make it EASY. So easy that I didn’t want to quit.  

If you’re feeling like you’re finally ready to figure out the food stuff, I would love to hold your hand through the process and gently pull you over to the other side with me. It’s as great as it sounds.

If you feel like support is what you’re missing, I’m here.

Comment below and let me know what the hardest part of this is for you and what is making you want to pull your hair out. I’ll do the rest.  

Hugs and hand-holding,

 

What To Do If You Need a Beach Vacation RIGHT NOW

March 21, 2018

If you follow me on social media, you know that I just spent a week on  Holbox Island off the coast of Mexico.

I had planned to work the entire time but the wifi there is slow, mostly unavailable and spotty at best. I was bummed at first because I actually love working and was looking forward to it. Also, my best friend was supposed to come a day later than me because of passport issues. And then it got pushed to the next day. And then the next. Until she told me she couldn’t come after all.

So I had planned to have a work-cation combined with nights of fun with my bestie, and I ended up alone, on a rustic, undeveloped island, with no friends and no plan. I started to feel a bit anxious, because I very much love a plan.

When I work with my clients to overcome overeating and emotional eating, one of the things I teach them is to feel into their bodies and ask what it needs. And so I trusted that connecting with my desires was going to make my unexpectedly solo trip turn into exactly what I needed at the time.

I closed my eyes, took slow, deep belly breaths, felt into my body and asked, “What do you need right now?” I heard…

“Sunshine”

“Calm silence”

“Beach”

“Fruits”

“Books”

“Bike”

“Bravery

“Fish, avocado, nuts and fatty meats”

So, I ventured out on my own to find the best beaches, the freshest fish, the sweetest fruits, and the brightest sunshine.

I let myself get completely lost biking on the unmarked sandy paths and tried to go with the flow, even when I ran out of water and saw no other humans or buildings for 3 solid hours. I sought out the best views in places I wasn’t supposed to go into and felt like a rebellious rule-breaker.

I swung in hammocks while crying over glorious fiction that I almost never make time to read in normal life. I let my toes drag back and forth in the sand for hours. (When was the last time my feet felt anything other than flooring or the insides of shoes???)

I drank the freshest fruit smoothies, with a splash or two of rum. I listened to gentle waves lapping from sunrise to sunset and would fight the sunset to get just one more page read before I lost light completely. Then I would venture out to get another plate of the best pasta I’ve had since I was in Italy. Then I would get dessert. It was absolute bliss.

When it came time to leave, I was sad. Why can’t all of life be like this? Could I just move here? No, I thought. I love my home and don’t want to leave it. I just want it to feel more like this.

As I was getting ready to head to the airport, I noticed that the belt I had worn on the way there needed to be cinched in another notch or two.

I wasn’t trying to lose weight, but it was interesting to see how my body responded to getting exactly what she asked for.

So, on the plane home, I decided to make a plan for how to make my life at home feel as calming and nourishing as it did on that little island.

In the mornings, I started swinging as the sun rises in a little hammock swing I had in my yard but have hardly ever used. I decided to walk out to it each day barefoot so that the soles of my feet feel the earth and cool grass. Even if it’s cold outside, my feet touch the ground for at least a couple of minutes. I added 10 minutes of fiction reading into my routine every day. I already meditate daily, so I doubled the length of time I usually spend doing it. I started making the same meals I had on the island.

I’ve also taken the “pretending I’m on an island” bit far enough to start saying “no” to more things that I don’t actually want to do and wouldn’t be able to do if I were on an island with limited wifi.

“I’m sorry but I can’t attend the networking event” …because I’m on an island

Since adding in these island-inspired self-care practices into my daily routine for almost two weeks now, I feel amazing. And if I could choose to be anywhere in the world in this moment, I’d choose to stay right here. On my deck, with the sun rising, playing fetch with my dog. I feel just as relaxed and happy as I did on the beach.

Have you ever wished you could make your life feel more like a vacation? If you can hop on a plane tomorrow and go, then of course do it! But if that’s not feasible right now,  I’d love for you to comment below and tell me one creative way you can make your current life today feel more like your dream vacation.

Hugs and rummy smoothies,

 

P.S. I’m doing food story interviews again! If you struggle with overeating or emotional eating and can’t figure out how to fix it, I’d love to interview you! There’s no catch, and the feedback I’ve gotten is that it’s been super helpful and insightful for the women who have done it! Sign up here. <<<https://calendly.com/breanne/30min_research_call>>> 

He called me chubby and everyone laughed.

April 16, 2017

 

I remember the way I used to feel around food. When I was in middle school, I’d come home after school and sit in front of the TV and mindlessly eat Oreo after Oreo after Oreo, sometimes until the whole package was gone. Then I’d hit up the Ho Ho’s and Ding Dongs. If you asked me why I was doing it, I wouldn’t have known what to tell you. It’s just what I did.

But now, I know that it was because stuffing my face with cookies and watching Saved By the Bell and living through those characters was so much better than my real life. It was because the Oreos and TV made me not have to think about the test I didn’t want to study for, or the boy who said in front of the whole class, “I want to marry Breanne one day because I just love a chubby girl with a face full of pimples” while everyone laughed. It let me live a different life, and escape. 

A decade later, nothing had changed. I was still numbing out things I didn’t want to feel with food. Again, it didn’t feel like that at the time. It wasn’t conscious. It just felt like I was HUNGRY ALL THE TIME and couldn’t make “good” food choices. But, now, I know that I ate because I felt behind in organic chemistry and didn’t know how to catch up. I ate because I was taking more classes than a normal human could handle without going insane. I ate because my dad was really, really sick. I ate because I was getting no sleep. I ate because it’s just… what I did to cope with life.

If you’ve followed me for a while, you might know that one day I even ate a whole wedding cake by myself (if I haven’t told you that story yet, comment below and let me know and I’ll give you all the gory deets!). The bingeing led to feeling horrible guilt and shame, and feeling totally out of control with food. This led me to want to CONTROL my food. I was sure that if I could just get it under CONTROL, everything would be fine.

I did Weight Watchers. I read nutrition books. I bought weird ingredients that rotted in the fridge for meal plans I couldn’t stick to. I did a Richard Simmons thing with a little plastic board I was supposed to carry around all day and tick off the food I was eating. I ordered frozen meals that were really expensive and tasted gross. I had a journal I used to write down everything I ate and the calories it contained. I tried it all.

Each night, I either felt like a champion or a loser, worthy or unworthy, all depending on how well I controlled and tracked my food that day. Sometimes I succeeded short-term, but never long-term. And it was exhausting. I never felt good enough.

When I had finally had enough, the day I ate an entire wedding cake, I decided I was going to figure out once and for all, how to have a normal, healthy relationship with food. I will tell you about that journey another time, but it ended with learning how to listen to my body and eat intuitively. I learned how to devour my life instead of just food. It changed everything for me, and I have never looked back.

These days, I live an amazing life, eat when I’m hungry, stop when I’m full, and eat delicious treats anytime I want to, and as much of them as I want to. There is no such thing for me as “good” or “bad” foods. I never feel restricted. I feel free. Light. My body is at her ideal weight and composition. Easily. Effortlessly.

I work through my emotions in ways other than just with food. I comfort myself without relying solely on food. I do adventurous things to feel naughty instead of getting cheap thrills from sneaking chocolates in a dark pantry.

If you want to learn more, comment below and ask me anything you want to. I’m an open book, and my mission in the world is to help as many women as possible to finally feel the way that I do — calm, confident, and free around food.

If you want to see how eating this way looks day-to-day, go ahead and “like” my business page so that you get notified when I go live or post new videos. 

If you want to find out your unique “Eater Type” to learn why you, specifically, feel addicted to food, TAKE THE QUIZ. 🙂

Hugs & High Fives to Food Freedom,

P.S. Join my NEW and FREE Devour Life Facebook Group where I share emotional eating tips, recipes, and help you with the tough parts of getting to the bottom of your emotional eating.

P.P.S. Feeling like you’ve tried solving it alone and it’s just not working? Schedule a discovery call with me and let’s get it figured out. It’s free and all you have to do is show up.

P.P.P.S. If you know someone who would LOVE to finally get to the bottom of their emotional eating, forward them this email and make sure they go to my site and sign up for my email list so they’ll have the insider info, too! xoxo

How to follow a diet (when you have to).

April 01, 2017

I hate diets for weight loss. They’re dumb and they don’t work.

Creating a life that’s more delicious than food works. Listening to your body and eating intuitively works. Ending the restricting diet mentality that leads to binging works. But diets don’t work.

So when my doctor recently told me I needed to go on a very specific diet (short-term) to fix a medical issue I had going on, I was less than thrilled.

But I didn’t doubt my ability to follow it once I committed. That’s because the philosophy I teach works, even if you have to commit to a specific way of eating.

So, if your doctor has told you to follow a specific diet for health-related issues, here’s how to do it.

1) Focus on the WHY. Remember that your body has trillions of cells that are constantly working to keep you alive and happy. Even when you’re punishing her with food choices that make her feel gross, she’s ALWAYS got your back. So following a way of eating that is guaranteed to pay her pack for a lifetime of taking care of you doesn’t sound so terrible, does it? Think of a sentence that reminds you why you’re doing this and say it often.

2) Focus on what you CAN eat. Instead of feeling sad about what you’re giving up, focus on the delicious things you CAN have. Put pictures of them on your phone and around your home. Find new ways to prepare them that are delicious. Think of it as a temporary food adventure and make it fun.

3) Find other things that give you pleasure. Since you’re losing some of the comfort foods and drinks you are used to going to for comfort, there will be a void that needs to be filled. Fill it with new things that make you feel even better than the foods did. You might need more time outside, more sex, more dancing, or more time with friends who will cheer you on and support you.

Here’s how I incorporated these tips for success:

1) I want to nourish my body and take amazing care of her, like a mama would take care of a sick baby.  I repeated this sentence to myself constantly. If I had a sick child, I would feed her healing foods, not foods that would make her sicker. And I would make it as enjoyable for her as I could. So that’s how I treated myself. With a big dose of mama love.

2) Oddly enough, I was allowed to eat plenty of cheese on this diet. I don’t typically go crazy for cheese, but I enjoyed trying new types and planning a “cheese date” at a fancy cheese store in town with a friend to make it extra fun.

3) Daily bubble baths with candles, extra time to journal about how I was feeling, extra meditation time, and, I’ll be honest, more time for sensual pleasures (wink, wink) became pretty important with this new life change.

And guess what? I followed through like a champ and took beautiful care of my body by eating super nutritious and healing foods.

If you’re facing a similar issue and need some support, feel free to reply to set up a call and I’ll give you a boost!

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Hugs & healing,

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How to Completely Forget About Food

February 24, 2017

See that delicious-looking cake ball? Drool-worthy, right? And I just totally forgot it was even there. Let me explain…

I spent the last week in Southern California and was reminded of a crazy simple trick to stop binge eating in its tracks.

I flew to LA for a retreat and spent a few days with some rock star women for the purpose of working together to reach our goals. The focus was on learning, stretching, getting uncomfortable, reaching higher, and making s**t happen.

During the process, I was IN IT. I was furiously taking notes during lectures, writing out ideas for new dreams and goals that kept popping in my head because I was so inspired, and nailing down the processes required to achieve, achieve, achieve. I was in the zone and it felt amazing.

Sometimes, when life is boring or feels like something we want to escape from, we look forward to the next meal or snack like it’s an oasis of water in the desert and we’ve gone three days without drinking.

But, because I was in this inspired flow state, I would accidentally go hours without eating or even thinking about food, and I was even kind of annoyed when the (delicious!) catered food arrived because I just wanted to stay in my flow.

Annoyed. When delicious food arrived.

This, coming from a former raging emotional eater.

I felt like that kid who’s having so much fun in the hotel pool that she throws a tantrum when her mom says it’s time to get out and go eat dinner.

And, when you think about it, don’t you think your one, very precious, life should feel as exciting to you as a hotel pool does to an 8-year-old?

Listen, I know you can’t make every moment of every day feel like a vacation. That’s not real life. But you can take some time each week to focus on getting into a flow that brings you back to your deepest inner joy and creative rhythm. And that can replace the time you’re currently spending snacking on junk food when you’re not even hungry.

So how’s about we make a deal this week to do something that gets us into that blissful flow state? Maybe for you that’s knitting, or singing, or writing, or planning out your year, or playing piano, or something you loved to do as a child and have forgotten.

As for me, I’m writing this blog to get into my flow state. Because writing to you guys right now has me in such a delicious creative flow that I’m completely ignoring the cake ball that is sitting right next to me. And I do not typically ignore cake balls, you guys.

Think of an activity that will make you feel like a blissfully hustlin’ & flowin’ diva, then comment below and let me know what’s inspiring you!

Oh! And if you missed my Facebook Live from Southern California where I was feeling all giddy about my flow state, here ya go!

Hugs and hotel swimming pools,


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P.P.S. Feeling like you’ve tried solving it alone and it’s just not working? Schedule a discovery call with me and let’s get it figured out. It’s free and all you have to do is show up.

Why I Ditched New Year’s Resolutions (And What I Do Instead That Actually Works)

January 08, 2017

 

I used to really love making New Year’s Resolutions. One year, my New Year’s Resolution was to floss every day, no matter what. Another year, it was to give up all added sugar for a whole year. And yet another year, I vowed to run around the block anytime I ate a cookie.

Some of these I actually followed through on. The flossing every day actually stuck because I put my flosser in the shower and I’ll always look for reasons to stay in the shower longer because it’s just so quiet and steamy in there, ya know? It was a win-win.

But the food ones were harder.

I remember when I ate my first cookie of 2006, I walked outside into the cold and immediately decided that running around the block in exchange for every cookie I ate would mean I was pretty much living a life of perpetually running around the block. Hard pass, thanks.

I did give up sugar for a year, and it was cool seeing the effects it had on me (for example, my taste buds changed so that everything even slightly sweet tasted like straight sugar) but I didn’t continue it into the next year because I realized that a life without baked goods is just not a life worth living for me.

These past few years, I have traded making New Year’s Resolutions for something that works so much better.

Instead of making a list of things I want to do or stop doing, I cultivate a list of words that describe how I want to FEEL in the upcoming year. And by doing that, I end up totally rocking out all of the “resolutions” I had in the back of my mind, without even really trying.

If you want to learn more about the detailed process for this, it’s all in Danielle LaPorte’s book, The Desire Map, which I highly recommend. But basically you go through a series of questions about each area of your life and it leads you to come up with words that describe how you want to FEEL when you get all of the things you dream of the most.

This year, I want to feel SEXY, LIT UP, and like I’m FLOURISHING.
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Flourishing is how I feel when I’m taking amazing care of the people I love, including, most importantly, my own body and soul.

Lit up is how I feel when I’m letting inspiration, excitement and adventure take the lead in my work and daily life.

And sexy is in there to remind me that everything isn’t about how much I can get done — I also want to feel lovely and calm and powerful and feminine while I do it. Like I want to check things off my to-do list, but while wearing some cute boots and maybe with a little strut and a wink, ya know?

So, for any decision I make on a daily basis, I ask myself if it will help me feel those things. 

Examples:

If I feel like I want to spend my Sunday staying in bed staring at my phone for four hours after waking up instead of getting dressed and going outside and living my life (special shout out to the mamas of little ones who are drooling over the idea of even having these options – I bow to you!)…

Or, if I feel like I want to spend my entire Sunday eating takeout while wearing dirty sweats and rocking greasy hair, only to look up from Netflix eight hours later and realize it’s dark outside and the sun never even kissed my skin, I ask myself, “Will spending my Sunday this way make me feel like I’m SEXY, LIT UP, and FLOURISHING?”

Ummm, no. So I get up and brush my hair and put on real clothes and spend a Sunday enjoying life out in the world with people I love, instead.

If I’m stressed and don’t know what to do next on a project for work that has a looming deadline, and I want to inhale a sleeve of Oreos to cope, I ask myself, “Will dealing with stress this way make me feel like I’m SEXY, LIT UP, and FLOURISHING?”

Nope. So, instead, I make a green smoothie and then furiously journal about all the things I’m stressed about (and all the ways that the world is just like SO UNFAIR to me in that moment) and then I brainstorm ways to make the project easier on myself, like asking for help and turning overwhelming action steps into easy, manageable ones.

Resolutions checked off in just those two examples:
– get out of bed earlier on days off
– go outside more
– less TV
– spend more time with friends and family
– avoid junk food when stressed
– journal everyday
– make a daily green smoothie
– delegate when I’m overwhelmed

This way of transitioning into the new year is so much more fun and effective than making a list of things to start or stop doing. Because what would eventually happen before is I’d feel controlled by the resolutions list, guilty about the resolutions list, or just ignore the resolutions list.

When I think about how I want to feel, I just feel happy. And then I naturally want to do the things that support those happy feelings. The new way actually gets results. 

My three feelings for 2017 are also written everywhere. On my bathroom mirror, phone screen, refrigerator, etc. This process reminds me that I really am in control of how I feel in my life, and that the point of changing my behaviors is not to punish myself or be a “better version” of my (what? previously terrible?) self, but rather just to be happy.

Wanna take a turn and try it for yourself? I’d love to know a few words that describe how you’d love to feel in 2017.  Comment below and let me know what you come up with!

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Hugs and a heavy dose of resolution-ditching, 

P.S. If you’re interested in reading The Desire Map, you can get it here.