You’re Invited! Come to My Free Get Out Of Food Jail Workshop Next Week!

December 01, 2018

Two things!

Podcast update and an invitation to the FREE Get Out of Food Jail virtual workshop (with a free workbook!) that I’m hosting next week!

The Devour Life Podcast is in full swing! Right now it’s available on Facebook and YouTube, but soon it will be in all the regular places you find podcasts. I’ll let you know as soon as it’s ready for you to subscribe to!

This week I interviewed Tracy Griffith, who went from zero body confidence to becoming a curvy clothing and lingerie model on Instagram with almost 200,000 followers. We talked about her history with dieting, diet pills, and how, at her highest weight ever, she became a super sexy, super confident internet sensation.

You REALLY don’t want to miss this one, so here’s the recording!

I also want to invite you to a FREE WORKSHOP I’m hosting next Thursday, Dec. 6th at 6pm CT called Get Out of Food Jail!

It’s all online and I won’t see you, so you can show up naked if you want. You’ll see me, though, so I probably won’t be naked. 😉

If you’ve ever wondered why you STILL can’t stop overeating or emotionally eating, this is for you. I’m going to teach you…

  • Why you do it;
  • Why it’s not your fault; and
  • How to fix it.

You’ll get a free Get Out of Food Jail workbook so that you can work along with me and leave with a clear plan for how to finally have a beautiful, healthy relationship with food.

Instead of food having the power over you, I’m going to show you how to flip the tables and finally feel in control.

It’s totally free, and everyone is welcome. If you’ve worked with me before and are craving a refresher, this is for you too!

Forward this post to a few girlfriends so you can all virtually be there together and chat!

Make sure to register here!

Hugs and hope to see you there!

P.S. Don’t forget you need to register to be able to come! Register even if you can’t make it live – anyone who registers will get the recording! Register Here!

3 Sneaky Brain Hacks to Lose the Desire to Overeat

November 22, 2018

Out of nowhere, the holidays are upon us. Here we go. It’s time for family, celebration, and lots and lots of food. So. much. Food.

If you’re feeling nervous about overeating during the holidays… or just overeating in general… I MADE A PRESENT FOR YOU!

It’s a quick, free, gorgeous guide called:

3 Sneaky Brain Hacks to Lose the Desire to Overeat

Click here to subscribe

Just 30 seconds and some sneaky biology tricks are all you need to avoid that bloated, stretchy pants, why-did-I-eat-so-much-AGAIN feeling.

These steps work at any time, at any meal, without the need to count, portion, track or otherwise deprive yourself. They’re sneaky but also really easy and lovely.

And each one really does take just 10 seconds.

If you can’t stop eating, don’t know why, are tired of feeling out-of-control and gross, and just want to FIX IT ALREADY… this is the cure. Think of it as an early gift from Santa, delivered by yours truly. 😂


Hugs and high-fives to finally feeling full,



Let me take care of you.

November 10, 2018

“It’s ok to allow yourself be taken care of for a little while.”

I’m lying on my yoga mat at a weekend yoga retreat. We took a deep breath, and then our teacher said, “Welcome. I’d like to remind you that it’s ok to allow yourself be taken care of for a little while.”


So simple, yet foreign… right? I mean, think about it. How often do you let someone take care of you?

Never letting yourself be taken care of leads to a HUGE desire to overeat and emotionally eat.

When you’re completely overwhelmed, taking care of everyone else, and running on fumes, it’s easy to turn to cookies, pizza, cheese, wine, etc to feel like someone is taking care of YOU.

Anyway, I’m so grateful to be at this retreat. I’m with my best friend and a group of amazing women. I’m getting to relax and be pampered with nature, sound baths (look at these singing bowls! 😍), gentle stretches, and quiet time. I’m letting others take care of me and it feels so, so good.

If it’s been a long time since someone took care of you, and if you’re wanting to eat food even when you’re not hungry…

I can promise you that the two are related.

So, let’s talk about it. Let’s hop on a call and… let me take care of you.

You’ll sign up for a day and time that works well for you. Sign up here!

I’ll send you a link to my online office.

You’ll come on and I’ll say, “OMG I’M SO EXCITED TO TALK TO YOU!” and I’ll ask how your day is going.

You’ll immediately feel at ease.

We’ll talk about all the food issues that you might have but don’t understand like…

  • Why you eat even when you’re not hungry.
  • Why it feels like an alien takes over your body and makes you secretly eat goldfish in the pantry in the dark like a crazy person.
  • Why you HAVE to eat the whole pizza instead of just a slice or two.
  • Why you can never just stop at one cookie. Or chip. Or bite of cake.

Tell me everything.

I’ll tell you that it’s normal. That you’re not broken. That it totally makes sense why you’re wanting to eat everything in sight.

And then I’ll help you figure out WHY exactly it’s happening. And I promise it’s not just because you “love food” or because you’re “broken”.

And you’ll feel like someone finally gets you. And like you have a plan to feel so much better.

And it’s free. Why? Because I just freaking love doing it.

So if you’re struggling with food, PLEASE schedule a call with me. Let yourself be taken care of for a little while. Let me spend some time taking care of you, ok?

It will set my heart all aflutter, and it will make you feel like you’re finally taking care of the food stuff instead of just ignoring it.

Are you ready to allow me to take care of you for an hour? Yeah? Yay! Click here and let’s do it. 




P.S. You can schedule a call even if you’re nervous. Even if you don’t know what you will say. Even if you’re pretty sure I won’t be able to help you. Trust me. Just do it. 

What’s your first body shame memory? Here’s mine…

November 05, 2018

One time when I was around 8 years old, I went to the zoo with my best friend, Lee, and both of our moms. Somewhere around the giraffes, Lee and I were walking next to each other in front, with our moms behind us.

I heard my mom say to Lee’s mom with a smile, “Look at Lee’s long, lean, tall body and Breanne’s short little stumpy body.”

Now let me be clear, there has never been a mother who loved her children more than my mom loves hers. She loved me then and thought everything about me was perfect, and still does to this day. My mom didn’t mean any harm by her comment, and was probably looking at me with pride like I was the cutest thing on the planet.

But in my 8-year-old mind, I had never really thought about my body being any different than Lee’s. We both smiled and giggled together. We both liked to run fast barefoot in the grass with our strong legs. We both liked to lie on our backs with our arms stretched out long above our heads while sharing made up poems. We liked to look at each other with the same mischievous grins, and dream up inventions that always somehow involved fire and us getting in trouble.

In my mind, if we used our bodies in the exact same ways, weren’t they the same?

After that day I looked down at my thighs before bath time and wondered why they were so big. I looked at my legs and wondered why they were so stumpy. I looked down at my tummy and wondered why it had rolls when I sat down when Lee’s only had skin folds.

I started noticing that Barbies had big boobs and long legs and tiny waists, and Barbies were the only dolls I had that were women. Lee looked like a Barbie. I looked like a Cabbage Patch Kid.

This is what we jammed on yesterday during my very first interview on what will soon be The Devour Life Podcast. I chatted with Megan Sullivan, the founder of Bold Body MANTRA™ Clothing, a consciously created body positive clothing line designed to empower women to love the skin they’re in.

We had SUCH a fun and juicy conversation, and we both shared how much we hated our bodies growing up, and how we both now have completely new and improved outlooks on what constitutes the perfect body.

If you missed it, here you go:

Come for the inspiring story of how Megan started her company, (you guys – she makes a tank top that says “Grateful for these Gams” and I just CANNOT! 😍), and stay for the moments we both lose our s–t over how stupid the diet industry is.=

If you’re open to sharing it with me, I’d love for you to hit reply and tell me your first memory of being body shamed. Also let me know if it’s ok for me to anonymously share it with my followers so that other women feel less alone.

Hugs and high-fives to being the change you want to see in the world,



P.S. A brand-spanking new round of The Devour Life Academy is starting soon. If you’ve seen my graduates transform in 90 days from “I can’t stop mindlessly eating all the freaking food” to “I just ate one bite of cheesecake and genuinely didn’t want the rest. Again.” then you know this stuff works. Intrigued? Let’s hop on a call and I’ll tell you all about it. 😚

How to manifest anything you want. Really.

October 30, 2018

I went to a weekend workshop in 2017 and it was one of my favorite weekends, ever. We spent time going inward, getting clear on our desires, trusting ourselves, getting into our bodies via movement, and visualizing.

Every time we meditated on our desires, I would accidentally visualize a giant house that I did not want.

It made no sense at the time, and it was very… not me. I was single and had lived alone for 9 years in a tiny condo that made my heart pitter patter. I loved my small space. I didn’t want a house. I had no idea how I would even buy a house. So I kept trying to talk myself out of this weird desire that kept popping up.

I asked myself, “Why do you desire a giant house? You love living in your small space. How would you even afford a giant house? What would be the point of living alone in a big house? You don’t even like big houses. Think of all the cleaning and taxes and electric bills. This makes no sense.”

Then we would meditate again and it would pop up, AGAIN. Ugh.

I said to myself, “Stop thinking about the dumb house. That’s not what you want. You have never wanted a big house, and you live alone. Don’t waste this retreat desiring something that you don’t even desire. Stop. You know who you are. You want travel, and adventure, and to maybe even drive to Alaska and live out of a van for a while. Ooh yeah that sounds fun!”

And yet, every time we got quiet again, the stupid house just kept popping up into my awareness and wouldn’t leave.

So, I gave in and allowed my mind to explore it. I wrote down in my journal, “I don’t know why, but I can’t stop thinking about the house. So I’m going to just allow that desire and explore it.”

I wrote out the reasons I thought I wanted the house, with great depth and in great detail. I didn’t get hung up on how it would happen; I just focused on what I desired. I then closed my journal at the end of the weekend and didn’t look at it again until the same retreat a year later. I opened it the night before the retreat began and…

I COULD NOT BELIEVE WHAT I SAW. Everything I had visualized and written in that journal had come true. Everything. Except even better than what I had imagined.

I read what I had written and was captivated.

At the time, I wrote about feelings I didn’t even realize I wanted to feel. I wrote about wanting to feel a sense of connection, a sense of closeness with people I love gathered with me, a sense of tradition, and the feeling of being rooted somewhere.

I wrote about wanting a house to run retreats, and to create space for all of my friends and family to gather, and to have enough space to move my mom in with me so she wouldn’t be alone. I wrote about parties, and babies running around, and ceremonies, and holidays. I wrote about circles of women who, together, would feel safe and loved and heard.

And all of those things, ALL of them, have happened in the giant house I found and bought about 5 months after that weekend.

In this house, I have hosted women’s circles, and beautiful parties, and cozy holidays. I have gathered my friends here over and over again and we have nursed each other through breakups and heartache and celebrated each other’s achievements. I’ve had friends and strangers crash here when they needed nurturing (I LOVE nurturing) and a place to recover. I moved my mom in with me and she’s so happy to no longer be living alone. We’re the best roommates, ever. And life is short so I’m grateful for every moment I get with her. With everyone I love, really.

So this thing that started out as a quiet, ridiculous, completely ludicrous whisper inside of me, has come to fruition and made me happier than I ever thought possible.

Was it easy? Not at all. Finding the house took forever. Financing was a nightmare. And the entire time there was a scared voice in my mind screaming, “WHY ARE YOU DOING THIS??? THIS IS SO ILLOGICAL. IT MAKES NO SENSE. YOU’RE GOING TO END UP ALONE IN A GIANT HOUSE YOU DON’T LIKE THAT YOU CAN’T AFFORD.”

But I chose instead to listen to the quiet little whisper that said, “Yes. This is the right direction. It’s ok that you don’t know how or why.”

And everything just sort of fell into place.

I tell you this because, if I hadn’t stopped to listen to the whisper inside me, this would never have happened.

If I hadn’t stopped my fear-mind from telling me how illogical and impractical and impossible it was, this would never have happened.

If I hadn’t taken the time to get curious about the whisper, feel into the desire, and write out a visualization for how it would look if it did happen (even though I had no idea how it would), this would never have happened.

I would have just stayed on auto-pilot and eaten lots of cookies and pizza to quiet the whisper.

So, here’s my question for you. What little whisper do you hear inside yourself that is begging you to do something completely illogical? What ridiculous whisper do you keep hearing when you get quiet? What impossible thing is it telling you to do?

Write a book? Run a marathon? Have a baby? Leave a relationship? Travel to Egypt?

What’s the whisper that you keep hearing, but that you wish would just be quiet because it obviously can never happen?

Right now, I want to give you permission to allow it. Dig into it. Tell the whisper, “Hey. I hear you. Let’s talk this out.”

And, without thinking about HOW it will happen, write out how it would look and feel and taste if it magically DID happen.

That part is really important because it can totally bring the whole process to a screeching halt. DO NOT THINK ABOUT HOW IT WILL HAPPEN.

Just focus on what you desire to happen. In as much detail as possible.

Hugs and happy manifesting,



P.S. If you want me to walk you through the process of listening to the whisper, just schedule a call with me. It’s free because you guys… this stuff is my JAM.

Free Video Series for You!

October 20, 2018

I had SO much fun doing my facebook live series on how to avoid the holiday food blues. If you joined me, I hope you’re feeling totally prepped for the holidays and excited instead of stressed!

You’ve got a plan to be in control of the food instead of the food controlling you. You know what to do when you see all the pie, cheese, cookies and chips. You feel like you’ve got this. Yas! So glad you joined me!

Or… did you miss it?

That’s ok. I know it’s hard to attend these things live. So if you missed it, I’ve packaged up the recordings just for you as a little gift. Set aside some time this weekend to go through the videos and you’ll feel like you’ve got this holiday season food stuff on LOCK.

You can access the videos here:

Part One

Part Two

Part Three

But wait… there’s MORE!

Feeling like you need some extra help to step away from the holiday cookies?

Feeling totally lost/crazy/powerless around food and KNOW you need some one-on-one help before the season hits?

Been wanting to work with me but not ready to commit to The Devour Life Academy?

Just for right now, I’m offering a three session, one-on-one coaching package for $497. That’s three sessions with just me and you, to get to the bottom of your food stuff so that you can focus on the joy of the holidays.

That’s the lowest price my one-on-one coaching has ever been, and the lowest it will ever be.

It’s also the only way to work with me one-on-one that I offer, and it’s open to anyone. Even guys. (Men who have been reaching out to work with me, I finally have an offer for you!)

So if you’ve felt a pull, let’s do this. Secure your spot now!

Hugs and High-Fives to the holiday food stuff being EASY,



P.S. And if you’re not in the spending mood… Did I mention that a 30-minute discovery call with me is free? And that all you have to do is show up? And that I’ll do all the rest? Yeah. It’s that easy. Schedule your call now. 

P.P.S. And, if you’ll allow me to toot my own horn for a bit… those who have taken me up on this free offer have raved about how powerful it was for them. That could be you!

My 3-Step System for Avoiding the Holiday Food Blues

October 13, 2018

Clearly I have never worked retail.

I am that person you hate. That person who is totally fine with holiday decorations going up before Halloween. That person who gets giddy in shopping malls when the Christmas trees go up. That person who drives around neighborhoods for hours looking at all the particle board Santa cutouts and twinkly lights with giddiness and glee. I even roll my car window down and clap and hoot and holler for the houses that go above and beyond my very high standards.

I am The Crazy Christmas Lady.

This is a picture of me at the Tree Lighting and Caroling at the Capitol Building in Austin a few years ago. I go every year. My friend captioned it, “Breanne was *this* excited the entire night. True story.”

I was raised with Christmas being the big holiday we celebrated as a family, but I love the holidays so much that I also get excited about Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, The Winter Solstice, Las Posadas, Canadian Thanksgiving, American Thanksgiving, Diwali, and The Chinese New Year. Are there any I’m missing? If so, let me know so I have another holiday to feel gleeful about.

I just love it all.

It was not always this way. I mean, I’ve always loved the holidays, but I used to get so anxious about everything coming down the holiday pike that I couldn’t let myself get fully excited. In the past, I would get so stressed out about everything that I had to do that I would dread the entire season.

All the gifts I had to buy. All the people that I needed to connect with. Scheduling visits to see multiple families across the miles. Figuring out how to create harmony among family members with opposing political views, while remaining true to my own beliefs but also without rocking the boat so much that Christmas was ruined. No pressure, right?

It just always felt like a season of giving and giving and giving of myself to the point that I felt completely drained.

Aside from all of those worries, the thing that I was simultaneously most fearful about AND most excited about was the holiday FOOD.

Thinking about all of the delicious foods that would soon be available to me made me feel equal parts gleefully excited and completely horrified. I would think of the specific foods coming my way, like Thanksgiving dinner and candy cane sugar cookies and hot chocolate and Santa-shaped candies and peppermint rice krispie treats.

Special, celebratory, joyous foods that my family only makes during the holidays, and treats from friends and neighbors that typically aren’t in my house year round.

Part of the problem was that I knew that the availability of these treats was finite. You know what I mean? Like knowing they would only be available during this holiday season put me in a scarcity mindset. So I felt the need to fill up on them like a bear prepping to hibernate for the winter. Once they were gone, they were gone.

That reality, combined with the level of stress I felt about the upcoming holiday season, was the perfect storm to set me up for overeating, emotional eating, and bingeing until I felt sick. I knew I was doing it to distract myself and soothe myself from the immense amount of stress I was feeling, but it didn’t matter. I couldn’t stop it.

It was actually incredibly sad, because these were special celebratory family foods that I wanted to be excited about and enjoy without guilt. But really, it was just another thing stressing me out.

Fast forward to now, and it’s completely different. Like 180 degrees different.

Now, I go into the holiday season feeling excited, amazing, pretty much stress-free, and completely excited about the cornucopia of foods that are going to be available to me. I know how I’m going to eat them, when I’m going to eat them, and how I’m going to fully enjoy them without an ounce of guilt. That part is now just… easy.

To get to this point, I tried and failed and tried and failed until I came up with a 3 step system to prep for the holidays that finally worked for me. It took a long time to figure out, but it ended up coming down to just three simple steps. I use these 3 steps every holiday season, over and over, and they work like a charm every single year.

In the spirit of giving, I want to invite you to a free, 3-part video series I’m doing on Facebook Live next week called, My 3-Step System For Avoiding The Holiday Food Blues.

I would love for you to join me. It’s completely free – a gift from me to you. I want to support you in feeling as stress-free, excited, and joyous about the upcoming holiday season as I do.

If you can join live, that’s great because I can answer your questions live!

How can you attend?

  1. Make sure you’re following me on my FB business page and you have notifications turned on so you get reminded when I go live!
  2. Mark your calendar and join me live!

But if you can’t attend live, just make sure you watch each video as soon as you can. Leave your questions in the comments and I’ll answer them as I see them.

Part 1 is on Monday 10/15 @ 1 p.m. central, Part 2 is on Tuesday 10/16 @ 6 p.m. central, and Part 3 is on Thursday 10/18 at 4 p.m. central. I put each one at a different time so that everyone can join at least one of them live.

I’m so excited to share this fail-proof system with you. We’re starting early, in mid-October, so that we can nip holiday stress right in the bud.

I’m going to get you through the holidays without you feeling like a crazy, neurotic, stressed, drained, over-giving, upset, angry, bitchy crazy person. And make this holiday season one you can actually enjoy, guilt-free and stress-free.

Join me and by the end of next week, you’ll have your holiday food plan on lock and ready to go. You’re the captain now.

Hugs and high-fives to having this holiday season on lock,



P.S. Don’t forget to follow me on my facebook page so you’ll be notified when I go live. 

Getting Out of Food Jail… Free Workshop!

September 16, 2018

You asked and you shall receive! So many of you reached out to me saying that you REALLY wanted to make it to the end-of-challenge party and workshop for the #devourlifechallenge but that you couldn’t make it live.

I totes get it. Making time to attend something live is hard when you have, you know, a LIFE.

So, as a gift, I’m giving you the recording fo’ FREE so that you can learn how to get out of food jail.

At this party, we celebrate the challenge winners, and I give you a free workshop teaching you:

– Why you overeat and emotionally eat
– Why it’s not your fault AND
– How to get to the bottom of it and fix it for good

In the video, I share a link so that you can set up a call with me if you’d like to chat one-on-one. To schedule a free call, just click here.

And if you’re feeling brave and know you want to jump right into The Devour Life Academy and claim your spot, just click here.

Hope you enjoy the free workshop! Here ya go!

Questions? Comment below and I’ll make sure to reply!
Hugs and high-fives to me teaching you how to LOSE the desire to overeat for good,

Feeling totally out of control around food? Then this is a must read…

August 31, 2018

Wanna join the free 7-day Devour Life Challenge? Click here!

I finally had to admit that I had lost control around food.

I looked down at the crumbs left from the giant wedding cake I had just eaten all by myself, on my couch, in one sitting. Who DOES that?

I knew what I was supposed to be doing. But I just wasn’t doing it.

I mean sometimes I felt like I had things under control. I’d eat a normal breakfast (or skip it altogether to save calories and feel so proud), then a light lunch, and then a normal dinner. I’d think, “I’ve got this. I can do this.”

I’d find myself alone in the pantry devouring everything in sight.

But then an hour later I’d find myself alone in the pantry devouring everything in sight. Or ordering a large pizza for myself. Or diving straight into a gallon of ice cream with a spoon, without even putting it in a bowl.

And I’d feel like a loser. A fraud. Every other area of my life was going great. Why couldn’t I figure out the food issues?

I tried every diet I could think of thinking that if I just found the “right one”, I’d finally be able to stick to it. But I always failed.

How hard is it to just count points? Or calories? Why can’t I just get it together???

Then I’d berate myself and think, “How hard is it to just count points? Or calories? Why can’t I just get it together???” I even contemplated joining Overeaters Anonymous. It felt like an addiction. Because the common denominator of all the failed diets was… me.

Wanna join the free 7-day Devour Life Challenge? Click here!

There was something underneath the desire for food that I just couldn’t put my finger on, and I became DETERMINED to figure it out.

I studied with every professor, guru, doctor, nutritionist, dietician and coach I could find. What I learned changed everything. Instead of devouring my life, I was devouring food. Whoa.

Once I learned what it means to live full out and devour my life, my desire to overeat just… disappeared. Like magic. Because my food issues really never had anything to do with the food.

If you feel like food is controlling your life…

Like an alien takes over your body and makes you eat all the cookies/pizza/cheese…

Like you’re stuck and doomed to just live this way forever…

Then trust me, I feel you. I’ve been there.

What I finally realized is that my desire to overeat and emotionally eat was actually a gift. Yep, I said it. A GIFT.

I learned that instead of actually enjoying food, I was treating it like a drug. I had taken something meant to be pleasurable and turned into something dark and shameful.

I learned that a desire to overeat actually points to something under the surface that isn’t ok in my life. I was using the cake, the pizza, and the ice cream as medicine for something I couldn’t quite diagnose.

Once I dug down to the real issues, it became so clear that my overeating was never about the food.

All I had to do was identify and address the underlying issues, and the desire to overeat just melted away.

Food became fun again. Choosing foods became so easy. Knowing what to eat and when to eat was suddenly so… simple.

I no longer wanted to eat an entire cake. The desire was just… gone. The ice cream in my fridge stayed untouched for so long that it went bad. The pizza guy wondered why I never called anymore.

It’s not you, bro. It’s me. The new me.

Actually, it’s the true me. The me at my core who I’ve always been. I just lost her for a while and had to find her again. And guess what? Her life is so chock full of connection, fun, and adventure that it makes overeating food just seem kinda… boring. There’s no pull to do it anymore.

Doesn’t that sound amazing? Yeah. It is.

And I want you to know that your life can feel that way, too.

I realize it might seem daunting to follow my path. Who has the time to spend years studying human behavior and working with teachers, gurus, food psychologists, nutritionists, and coaches all over the world? Ain’t nobody got time fo’ dat.

So what I did is create a FREE 7-day Devour Life Challenge to jumpstart you on your own journey and break you out of food jail.

Each day’s challenge will be easy, fun, and take just a few minutes to complete. The goal will be to uncover the root cause that makes you want to overeat, so that you can heal it. 

I’m not going to be telling you to eat carrot sticks and do sit-ups. It’s not that kind of challenge. It’s the kind of challenge that gets to the DEEPER ISSUES instead of using diets or exercise like ineffective band-aids.

I’m going to do it right along with you, and you can win some pretty amazing prizes. I’m giving away my favorite oils, malas, books, and a grand prize worth $4500.

So… are you in? Are you ready to finally get to the source of all the pain? Let me hold your hand and show you the way. Join the Devour Life Challenge now so you’ll get all the details on what to do!

Hugs and high-fives to me breaking you out of food jail,

Why You Keep Failing at Reaching Your Goals.

August 30, 2018



I’ve been hearing a lot of this lately…

I want to change the way I eat but I just can’t seem to follow through.

I know what I ‘should’ be doing but I’m just not doing it.

When I think about everything I need to do to make it happen, I just feel overwhelmed.

Trying to change something big in your life can feel so impossible. Especially when you’re trying to change food habits that you’ve had for years.

But you’ve seen people actually follow through, right? They set a goal, do the work, achieve it, and then celebrate! So it’s possible. But… how do you become one of those people?

The key to actually achieving a goal is to be gentler on yourself. I know that’s counter-intuitive. We think of achieving goals as PUSHING, WORKING, and SACRIFICING.

But then the pushing, working, and sacrificing become overwhelming and unsustainable and you find yourself on the couch with a tub of ice cream just saying, “Eh. This is impossible. Screw it all.

So the key is actually being gentler on yourself.

And how do you do that? By following these 3 simple steps.  

    1) Visualize and Believe

I had a client once who woke up anxious every morning because she hated the way she was eating. Every morning, like clockwork, she would wake up and already know that the day was going to be a giant failure.

If you wake up every morning thinking, “Ugh I hate my body and I always will.” or “Ugh. I hate work and am never going to get the promotion I want.” then that is exactly what is going to happen. You will hate your body forever. You won’t get the promotion. When you wake up in a negative mood, it’s a self-fulfilling prophecy.  

Instead, I want you to wake up and take 3 minutes to visualize yourself already having achieved your goal. Seriously. Set a timer on your phone and do it.

If it’s changing your relationship with food, then I want you to wake up imagining yourself easily making the food choices you want to make and only eating until you’re full. Imagine yourself feeling full and genuinely not wanting any more food. Imagine yourself feeling light and strong and looking in the mirror and loving what you see. Imagine yourself pretty much losing the desire to overeat altogether. Imagine how amazing it will feel when it happens as though it has already happened.

Put out into the universe the outcomes that you WANT to happen. Not the ones you don’t want to happen. And do it every day.

    2) Stop the Overwhelm

Feeling overwhelmed is the antithesis of reaching a goal. Overwhelm makes you feel like a deer in headlights. And it makes you believe that you’re incapable of success. It’s just too much.

Instead, squash overwhelm by getting real clarity and breaking down your goal into tiny bite-sized action items. Look at where you are. Look at where you want to be. Then, list every single tiny step it will take to get from Point A to Point B. Each action item should be so tiny that you can do it in less than 5 minutes. They should be so tiny that they’re almost laughable.

If you’re trying to change your relationship with food, your goal might be to understand why you can’t stop overeating. And your first tiny step might be to click here to join my 7-day Devour Life Challenge that starts next week so that I can help you figure that out. See? Step 1 is already done for you. Tiny, actionable steps.

    3) Celebrate!

When I see clients struggling to reach their goals, it’s almost always because they’re focusing on what they see as their failures, and completely ignoring their tiny wins.

When you take a small step toward your goal, celebrate!

Think about a baby learning to walk. You would never hear a parent say, “Well, my baby took her first two steps today but it doesn’t really matter because then she fell down like a total loser.”

But I hear clients talk like that about themselves all the time.

“I followed the steps you told me and then I only wanted 3 bites of my cheesecake and didn’t want the rest. That’s never happened before. But later I had planned to make a new recipe and I didn’t do it so I don’t really have anything good to report.”

Huh? What??? Only wanting 3 bites of a plate of cheesecake for the first time in your life is a HUGE WIN. That’s worth jumping up and down and doing a happy dance for!

The more you celebrate your wins, the more you continue to have more and… more wins. If you downplay them and focus on the negative, you’ll get more of the negative.

So celebrate your wins, whether they’re huge or miniscule. When you’re trying to change a lifelong habit, you’re like a baby taking her first steps, and you should treat yourself accordingly.  

Follow these steps and watch how much closer you get to your dreams. They’re closer than you realize.

And if you feel like this seems good in theory but you would like some support, then join me for my free 7-day Devour Life Challenge.

We’ll do it together and have SO much fun. It’s so much easier than you think.  

Hugs and High Fives to making s**t happen,