How to STOP Energy Vampires and Naysayers from Thwarting Your Progress

February 20, 2020

What do you do when you’re doing the best you can to eat well and take care of yourself, but you’ve got someone in your life who’s an energy vampire, a naysayer, depressing, judgey, or just otherwise brings you down?

Whether it’s a family member, coworker, or someone that you are caring for, if you’re feeling drained I’m going to teach you 3 things you’ve GOT TO DO to stop other people from gettin’ you down, sapping your energy and dimming your amazing light…🌟

  1. Define Your Boundaries + Communicate them + Enforce them

We have this idea that people that can say whatever they want to us if they love us or they are trying to be helpful, but this is not actually true!

The only things people are allowed to say to you are the things that you allow them to say. So if you don’t want people commenting on your body or what you are eating, you have every right to tell them so STOP. What would this look like in real life?

DEFINE: “I don’t want people commenting on my food choices or body anymore.”

COMMUNICATE: “Hey Mom, just so you know I am working on this new way of eating and it’s pretty personal to me. I don’t want to talk about it right now and would prefer to talk about other things. OK?”

ENFORCE THEM: If you have set a boundary and then they don’t respect it say “Remember I mentioned that I don’t want to have conversations about that anymore? Are you still on board with that? The next time we are together if you can’t follow through on that I’m going to have to take a break from us spending time together.”

Does it make you feel super cringey to even think about having those conversations? Then that’s a pretty good indication that you’re allowing other people to drain your energy like thirsty little vampires. 


Remember, boundaries can often look and feel like pissing other people off sometimes. It takes practice but you got this! Be BRAVE and put YOU first!

  1. Fill Your Energetic Cup (activities that only bring PLEASURE, specific to YOU)

When you wake up you have a certain amount of energy. Then you go about your day and you give and give and you end up draining your cup, right? Because that’s just how life works, right? NO, NO, NO!!! 

What I’d like for you to do is to only give to people from your overflow of energy. Because when you allow yourself to get completely drained, you’re WAY more likely to encounter emotional eating and food cravings.

I really want you to pay more attention to how you are filling up our energetic cup AND how you are emptying it.

The things that fill your energetic cup are specific to you. They can be anything that brings you joy, feel happy, makes you feel calm, etc. When you’re doing these things consistently you’ll see your energy start to overflow. And it feels SO GOOD.

It is your responsibility to protect your energetic cup!

Here are some great examples of things you can do to fill your cup. Which ones make you tingle when you think about them?



🎹Play Music



📖Reading fiction

🌳Sitting outside and drinking tea

🐶Playing with your dog

☀️Taking a break from work to take a 10-minute walk

🎧Escaping from work to your car to listen to a podcast for 15 minutes

📕Curling up in a warm blanket and reading a magazine

🎥Watching a movie (but be careful with screens!)


  1. Protect Your Energetic Cup (only give from your overflow)

Rituals are so important for filling and protecting your energetic cup!

⭐️Morning rituals

⭐️Nighttime rituals

⭐️Movement rituals

⭐️Creating a sacred space

⭐️Cup-filling calendaring

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I’d love to personally help you fill your cup and PROTECT THAT MOFO. At the beginning of every month we even do a “cup-filling calendaring” session to make sure you’re set to feel filled up and in your overflow state for the whole month!

In the comments, let me know your FAVORITE cup-filling activities!