Habits… ughh! Am I right? Have you started to feel like maybe you’re just lazy or weak because you’ve tried ALL of the “lifehacks” you see online to shift your behavior but nothing has stuck?
If you ever struggle with habits, it’s not actually because you’re lazy. It’s because you don’t know who you are. 🤫
Stay with me here!
I used to think the secret to having better habits was just learning more lifehacks, being more efficient, or just loving pleasure (like food and Netflix) less.
Nope. None of those things will work if you’re not incredibly clear on EXACTLY who you are. Let me explain…
Look at the difference between these ⬇
Someone offers you a cigarette when you stop smoking. You say either…
No thank you. Ugh! I mean I really wish I could because I am so stressed and I know that would calm me down and feel so good but I really am trying to quit and I promised myself I’d do it this time. Let’s see if I make it or not!
No thanks. I’m not a smoker.
See how those are VERY different? 🤔
One is wishy-washy; the other is standing in her power.
One could be blown over by a gentle breeze; the other is effortlessly confident.
Guess which person is actually going to stop smoking? Yep. Person B.
And it’s not because Person B has a different personality. It’s because Person B knows EXACTLY who she is, and it makes her decisions (and communicating them) easy.
Research shows that changing your habits has lots of components, but NONE of the lifehacks you learn will work unless you take THIS first step.
What is it? IDENTITY.
You need to get clear on who you ARE.
Then, REPROGRAM your brain to believe that.
Someone offers you a freshly baked cookie 🍪 after lunch.
“No thanks. I want to but I can’t. I’ve been trying so hard not to eat stuff like that and it’s just a fight all the time and I wish I was one of those people who could eat cookies but I’m just not.”
NOTHING about that is empowering. You have zero north star 🌟. It leaves no one, including you, clear on who you are.
In this video, I walk you through how to reprogram the language in a way that leaves you feeling empowered. Check it out now.
In a way that makes you feel EMPOWERED.
This is also why I LOVE reprogramming audios because they just do the work for you.
Get clear on who you are, and the habits you want will follow. If you ever think struggling with food is just your lot in life, it’s not. It’s actually a pretty easy fix if you’re willing to let go of diet mentality. So don’t sell yourself short. You’ve got this. ❤️